Lately I've been in many conversations here and there about guys, contentment, & boundaries in and out of the context of relationships. As believers I think we're constantly trying to find where "the line" is. "How far can I go before it's sinning?" and "If he's just my friend, how close can we be before it's not ok?" These are such big questions! Questions that really can only be answered by drawing close to the Lord in prayer, asking Him to search your heart. No two answers may be the same.
I've titled this post "Emotional Purity" which is sort of a made-up term by one of my good friends, Olivia, and we've been trying to define what that would look like. It's important to know the meaning of "impurity." Defined as "a thing or constituent that impairs the purity of something," an impurity in a diamond degrades the jewel's value. If we look at this word in the context of our emotional attachment to material things or people, an "emotional impurity" has the potential to impair the purity of our relationship with the Lord! We start to add things that don't belong there. Where we let our mind wander and how well we guard our heart is SO important.
Everyone talks about the obvious sexual impurities, (which need talking about!) but there are also deep rooted emotional sins which are further below the surface of physical action. These sins include idolatry, lust and fantasy. If I idolize or lust over someone, that's in my head & heart, nobody really has to know, but as believers we know God sees the deepest desires of our hearts, and if they aren't rooted in his will, we aren't growing to our full ability. If you fantasize your life with someone or something, are you really submitting to God's will, or are you saying, "God I know you've got a plan, but wouldn't this be SO much better?!"
When our emotions get tied up in instant gratification, romance, material things and so-on, we become distracted. We start looking around trying to find the acceptance and provision Jesus gave us when he died for our sins! Our instinct to seek the Lord is twisted by the world's definition of fulfillment and working for your salvation. When this happens, we quickly lose step in our walk with the Lord and, even though he is closer than our breath, we suddenly feel so far away from Him. But how do we get back when we're so emotionally invested?
I encourage you today to spend some time and evaluate your heart. Then, pray to the Lord to show you the hidden desires you don't want to admit. Everyone points to Psalm 37:4 that says "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart," thinking God's just going to plop what you want in your life. But it's important to understand we must first take delight in Him. When we fully and completely take delight in Him, our desire will be only for Him and His will! So be patient in waiting for what he will bring you, because whatever (or whoever) it is is better than you ever could have imagined and the reward for seeking Christ is eternal and unfailing!